Through the eye of a needle,
A Window Opens To The Past, A Window Opens To The Future
Three generations of Can I help you? What do you need?
By Antoinette Menzietti
This paper is presented
as a final project for the University of Maine's course in Franco-American
Women's Experiences, Fall 1999. I have used the writings of Amy Morin's
submitted to the class in Lesson 12 as a resource into the lives of her
family.
After requesting assistance in finding a
Franco-American women for this final project, I accepted the invitation
from Amy Morin (a guest speaker for our class) to meet Agatha Bouchard,
Amy's mom, to interview her, as well as Amy, as Franco-American Women
Artists, of the 20th century. I will refer to Amy's writings throughout
the work to illustrate certain points, or to make reference to historical
Bouchard family events.
Amy Morin's work caught my eye in this
course. Her writing reached me in a way I could understand, in a way that
intrigued me into reading, and knowing more. The stories that pertain to
this work are all of her family. Stories of her memere, her mother, and
herself were told with great love, warmth, and respect. This kind of writing
is refreshing in this complicated contemporary world. The traditions that
pass through generations are captured, in her descriptions of places, and
people. Her writing, along with her teaching, and sharing skills, are just
some of the arts that she preserves inside of herself, as you will soon
see as her family heritage and tradition unfold in this work.
To begin this project I first made arrangements
to meet with Amy, at the University of Maine, at her office, on University
Avenue. When I got there, the impression that was clearest in my
mind, when I walked in the office, was that Amy's office space was really
nice, like a home. Her office was warm and light. There was an immediate
response within myself to be at ease. This is not normally my natural first
response in a University office. It was impressive too. I don't know exactly
what it was, but there's no denying it was there. I was cheerfully greeted
by a smiling, confident, women with whom I felt, I was at the least,
welcome, in her space. It was Amy. We made quick arrangements and I followed
her, by car, to Agatha's home in Old Town, where I planned to interview
them both.
When we arrived at Agatha's, I had the
same initial reaction to my surroundings. Her house was warm and
beautiful. Once again I could not remember the intimate details of the
house, just the feeling I got when I entered it. There were warm soft colorful
afghans on every chair, two on some. There were wonderful paintings on
the walls. Paintings of landscapes, one with people. I found out later
that these were done by Agatha's husband, Amy's father. There was a feeling
of welcome in the atmosphere of the house, and the greeting I was met with
as we arrived. I felt at ease. Maybe I felt as if I had known them from
Amy's writings, but I think it was something in the air. The living room
where Agatha sat was sunny and cheerful, it seemed to be filled with the
warmth of love. Agatha, Amy, and I were initially alone, joined later by
Amy's dad, but the house seemed radiant, full, lingering warm spirits.
I had brought along with me a list of questions that I thought were important
to ask. I wanted to know about her life as a teacher. There were questions
about how she learned her skills, what her art meant to her ?, what influenced
her styles ?, did her work mark eras of her life ?, or could you see time
passing in the changes of her patterns or stitching? Knowing ahead of time
that she was an artist in textiles, there was the question of who had her
work? Where was it displayed? How do you make your color choices? Are your
patterns original? What aspect of your work is Agatha, what aspect is heritage
and tradition? But, I never got a chance to ask. Agatha answered
my questions intuitively.
After our introductions she simply began
telling me the story of her beautiful afghans. She showed me, and told
me of a few other kinds of stichery she had mastered. She had even worked
making children's clothes at one time. But what really caught my attention
and what she really talked about were the beautiful afghans.
Unlike my earlier interview with Madeline Bouchard on Mount Desert Island,
Agatha immediately began to speak at length about the amazing legacy of
love she has created, with the creation and giving, of her warm wonderful
afghans. She began by telling me how the whole legacy had begun for her.
Agatha began the story by talking about
her own mother. She mentioned that she had grown up on a farm and that
knitting, crocheting, and various other forms of stitching was a
constructive and pleasurable way to spend a long cold winter, in Lille.
Amy's writings tell a story of a small
girl gifted in working with her hands. She began to learn to embroider
when she was four. Her love for stitching grew as she learned the art of
knitting, crocheting, tatting, sewing, weaving, doing hardanger, and hooked
rugs.
Agatha in turn taught her daughter Amy
to sew, embroider, knit, and crochet. Agatha's mom, Amy's memere had started
the tradition long before she taught Agatha. She had made woolen comforters
from home carded wool, dyed the wool and stitched the comforters herself.
She had created a legendary rug which was sorely missed by her family after
its sale. She created another in its place but none like it was ever made
by her again. Amy's memere had made her own soaps from lye and fats, put
up her own jams jellies, and vegetables for herself and her family each
year for the winter food supply. Amy's writing states that Agatha's mom
made 48 loaves of bread per week keep her family fed. She traded butter,
cream, eggs, and milk, from the farm, for meat for her family. She bought
two five pound blocks of maple sugar each year, and created syrup and sweets
to keep her family, and ployes sweet. Agatha's mother was an artist
of food as well as stitchery. Agatha who seems to have inherited her mothers
artistic traits, as well as her ability to organize, lend a hand where
needed, cook well, and keep her house beautiful and clean, turned around
and handed these trait, and skills on to Amy, her daughter who reflects
all of their collective respect and heritage in her continual artistic
expressions.
When Agatha was twelve she was taught the
art of hardanger by a nun who was a friend. This is in keeping with the
franco-american women's traditional cultural experience. Agatha showed
me an exquisite example of her own work . The hardanger was breathtaking.
It was an cross of cloth surrounded by complicated intricate lace work.
It looked as if it were extremely time consuming and stressful to create.
Every stitch was perfectly placed. Not stressful ,according to Agatha,
who said "As long as you don't drop a stitch you are O.K. If you
drop one of these stitches you are actually dropping 8 stitches. If you
do this, the whole thing will just unravel." Her piece was perfect. The
stitches were so very small. Agatha told me that the women/girls created
their own patterns with a system which uses pins and squares from books.
This pattern making is an art form which must be learned from someone who
has the experience. A dying art. The women/girls had no patterns other
then the ones that they created for themselves. So, they created patterns,
and produced great works of stitchery art. As she talked about her other
textile works the original pattern seemed to be the standard for Agatha.
Even if there was a pattern of stitching available in knitting a piece,
she showed me how she changed the pattern to make it her own. She also
spoke about patterns she created in some of her afghan strips that had
to be repeated completed seventy-two times to complete the length of afghan
she was aiming for. I took a lot of pictures of the different patterns
she had created in finished works around their house. I took pictures of
the stitching, the hardanger, and the large afghans and laps throws. The
colors were amazing. The patterns and textures of the patterns were fascinating.
The feel of the afghans was the most amazing though. The feel was something
that would not have been captured accurately by a photograph. I wanted
pictures just the same. I did not get them developed in time for this final
project so I'll have to illustrate them with words as best as I can. Soft
and thick, warm, and all encompassing. The comfort and the beauty
and the love in each stitch makes them amazing enough, but the beauty makes
you feel as if your holding something precious, valuable, and priceless.
As intrigued as I am by Agatha's work at this point I have no idea what
to expect next and I stand surprised as the best part of the story
Agatha has saved for last.
Agatha tells me she never sold, but one,
of her afghans in the many years she has been creating these masterpieces.
The only way you could have an afghan made by Agatha was to bring her the
yarn and she would create the piece. Her family, friends, or potential
afghan receivers used to bring her loads of yarn and Agatha
would get great pleasure out of creating the afghans, lap throws, and couch
throws, or bedspreads throughout her whole life, and giving them to the
people who brought the yarn, or were just lucky enough to receiver or of
these works as a gift. Everyone in the family has at least one of Agatha's
many crochet, or knitted creations. Agatha talked about how much she loved
the work itself of creating the piece, from the pattern, to the colors,
to the stitching. It has given her pleasure always, and then always been
a pleasure to all who have ever received one of these works of art. Then
there is the pleasure she gets from the joy of giving and seeing the great
appreciation of the work on the face of the recipient.
Amy brought out all the work she could
find at the house for me to look at and as I did Agatha asked me if there
was anything that I had wanted to know, or any questions I wanted to ask
her? All the questions I had it seemed had been pretty much answered in
her explanation and sharing of her work. The one question I still had in
my mind was, What Influenced the most change in your work throughout your
life time. Agatha took a minute and then said, " The good Lord is taking
away my eyes now. Just this last few weeks I have felt that there was a
film forming over my sight which will not allow me to see my work clearly.
She has recently given up all her other forms of stitching, except
knitting. Her eyes are just recently not good enough to see her patterns
clearly, in any of the work that has not been created by knitting.
The last piece she could see clearly was a large bedspread she had just
completed. It had been made from a pure bright white yarn. She was thinking
that the bright white would help her see the work more clearly. After sitting
in the bright light of the living room window where she works day after
day she felt the strain of the brightness must have finally taken its toll.
Her eyes began to cloud over. She still insists on continuing with her
work. She says she has slowed down considerably, and has had to unravel
many rows of stitching trying to find that dropped stitch. She has been
very sad and reduced to frustrating tears as her love of stitching becomes
harder and harder for her to continue.
Her son has asked her to make him a bedspread
for him out of beautiful neutral grays which of course he purchased and
brought to her just for this project. This is what she was working on as
I interviewed her last week. She showed me the double cable of her own
design, and also how the popcorn pattern was missing because of the complication
of the stitches and the trouble with her eyes. She was determined to finish
this for him no matter how many times she had to take it out and do it
again. Her determination is the driving force behind this stage of her
work.
Agatha loves to read her readers digest
in the big print but even that is getting hard for her now. "My sight is
what has changed my work for me the most", said Agatha. Agatha also told
me that long before she was losing her sight she had made lap throws for
the veterans at the V.A. hospital so they would have something to keep
them warm. With all she has done she seems to be set in her ways of helping
other people by sharing the gifts that she has. This is just one of the
many things Agatha has done to help others in need with her art, and other
gifts of love.
Agatha will turn ninety years old on April
twenty-third. Her sixtieth wedding anniversary will be on July twenty-ninth.
Agatha was the baby in a family of 10 children. She herself grew up and
had two children, Amy, and Denny. She also has five grandchildren, and
six great grandchildren. In her life time she has accomplished many
things. Amy tells heroic stories of her family members, at different times
in their lives, a lot of them centering around Agatha, and her kindness,
generosity, and willing, selfless sense of duty, and responsibility, to
her family, friends, and neighbors. Amy tells of how took in homeless
children, borders, fed hungry neighbors, taught school for thirteen years,
warmed patients at the V.A. hospital, with her very own handstitched lap
throws. Agatha cared for her sister Marianna, when Marianna was unable
to take care of herself. Agatha was always available to help other households
with cleaning and organizing in times of need, she even helped a neighbor
unsuccessfully give birth, sharing her clothes, when the women was unclothed,
and her husband helped by building the coffin for the deceased baby. She
always treated neighbors as family, and upheld and passed on the Franco-American
tradition of, as Amy puts it: feelings of responsibility for family and
community deeply ingrained in the culture. She has raised a family and
inspired two future generations of her family to great works of love, art,
and expression.
After my interview with Agatha was complete,
I was filled with awe and amazement at how much impact one person, or one
family, could have on the people in a community. I was amazed at the depth
of the interview which I had just been a part of. Agatha had taken me to
a place in the interview where I had not expected to go. Keeping
with the original plan for this interview was not to be. Agatha had taken
the interview right directly to the heart of the Franco-American women's
experience by showing me what the gift of the arts, and creativity really
meant to her, and how she used those gifts, granted to her by God, to make
other peoples lives better. To be a neighbor to everyone.
After the interview, I had so much information,
and I had spent so much time talking with Agatha, that I didn't feel
there was time enough to get what I wanted for Amy's story. So, using the
information I had gathered from the class from Amy's writings and what
I absorbed from talking with Agatha I combined what I learned to create
this final project. I originally took this course out of basic
interest in women's studies in general. I had virtually no experience,
in my 37 years of life, to the Franco-Womens experience. I'm always interested
in learning new things and sharing life experiences with other women with
whom I share this earth. As classes began I was intrigued and amazed by
the pioneering women, the nuns, the teachers, the nurses, the women building
homes on shear faith. In the end though what has struck me the hardest,
and stayed with me the clearest, is the heroic stance of the traditional
franco-american women's experience taken by the everyday contemporary franco-american
women. The heroic and consistently reoccurring tradition of love, honor,
respect, work hard, be honest, take care of all God's family, family values
found within this franco-american tradition. The pioneers were amazing,
but these women who become pillars on which to build a community and family
should be looked upon with the greatest of respect. Women like Mattie Pinette,
Lanette Landry Petrie, Maggie in Calico Bush, the franco-american women
authors we have been looking at throughout class, most especially dear
to me, Amy Morin, these are the women with something for us to learn.
All of these women carry the Can I help you? What do you need? attitude.
What I have been enlightened to, through these women, is a window to another
time, and a window to the future. With ideals, and traditions being so
misplaced and forgotten in these fast paced times, these women are the
ones who are offering us knowledge to be applied to our future, learned
from our past. They hold the key to our happiness and success. The love
and respect of your family. A hand to your neighbor. A world where we are
all one family within a community.
I believe I have learned so much from these
rich family histories and traditions. I want to preserve some of these
traditions, before foreign to me, deep inside myself. Why? So that I can
carry on some of this good work for Agatha. I asked her, "What can I pass
on for you? What would you like to preserve for the future?"
I don't really remember getting a response. I'm going to chose to treat
my neighbors as if they were family in times of need. I unknowingly have
been making hats, sweaters, mittens, and socks for people, as gifts only,
for years. I do this, because I like the way it feels to give to people,
especially something you know will keep someone warm. I have also
been known, to only require someone to bring me the yarn, to create a sweater
and even a pattern just for them. Everyone in my family has something that
I made for them out of the love in my heart for them. I didn't know I shared
tis behavior with Agatha till I heard her talk about it. Somehow I felt
connected to her. I am going to continue this tradition now with a new
sort of outlook.
I also make homemade soap and have been
doing it as a business for fourteen years. I was taught by my grandmother
at a very young age. Before I left Agatha's house, after the interview,
I made sure to leave Agatha, and Amy, both a couple bars of the homemade
soap that I made, so that they might sense my desire to help carry on the
love they've shared with me, in my first look into this wonderful world
of Franco-American family traditions.
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